I received one of the most heartfelt, honest, and open letters today from one of my dearest of friends. They’re basically family, and were at one point almost quite literally family. We don’t get to talk or hang out very often anymore — usually just once or twice a year — so it was already a pleasant surprise to hear from them, regardless of the content. The letter they wrote was a first step in their journey to make positive changes in their life that were apparently spurred on by a recent reunion with our old circle of friends and, most humbling to me, from reading my posts on this blog.
This coming a day after speaking over the phone with another of my closest friends about how I’ve somehow developed this ability to put things in perspective for people, an attribute which no doubt comes from an old roommate who helped me form my belief that we are the universe experiencing itself, a view which he himself meditates upon daily. I joked that I’m like a good high-school guidance counsellor, which makes sense because my guidance counsellors in my high-school were some of the most influential and inspirational people I’ve ever met. They went above and beyond their call of duty and really believed in my pursuit of the performing arts as a career, and helped foster and develop my leadership abilities. And it’s only right — and absolutely most spiritually rewarding — to use those same advising abilities to help other people.
I’ve already posted about perspective and how important it is when assessing situations or problems, so I won’t delve into my thoughts into that again, but it’s worth noting that it’s something I always want to share with people because I believe that it is applicable to all of the issues we face every day. When I help my friends who need advice, or are in a panic, or just need someone with whom to converse, I’ll usually cut straight to the point, as free of emotional bias as possible. I think it’s key to be as Vulcan as possible and be logical at times when emotion is running high. The last thing I’ll tell a panicked friend to do is to calm down. I might say to breathe, but I usually just let the advice do the calming for them. I think my close friends have realized this about me and I like to think it’s something I learned from watching my parents interact with work colleagues or total strangers. My Mom can be very straight and to the point, almost in a cutthroat manner, while my Dad usually takes the calmer approach and slowly works his way to the point. I’ve combined the two methods to create a balance — I’ve always strived for equilibrium in my life, but more on that later — as my Mom’s method can come of cold, and my Dad’s method can seem patronizing or even condescending to the more sensitive recipients.
But I somewhat digress. I think that all I really do is help people create a plan of action. They present me with the facts of the situation, and I sort the facts out into something logical upon which they can act. Often times there are an abundance of emotional reasoning behind their issue, which for the most part I put to the side, since it tends to get in the way of an unbiased assessment. It seems cold, but every time I do it, it helps bring clarity to the situation. I don’t set out to be inspiring when helping friends solve an issue. I do it sometimes while teaching or giving workshops, but I try my best to motivate people to inspire themselves and to be inspired by their surroundings. There’s no need to wait for inspiration, it’s always nearby.
I’m humbled that what I often perceive as my own personal ramblings or blabberings for you, the public, have helped to inspire positive changes in others. Just know that whatever you read here that inspires you is what inspires me. And that’s you.
Awwwww. Puke. (Sorry, I’m still a smartass. I have to be.)
Oh damn, time for plyometrics. I’ll be crawling up the stairs tonight.